Connecting in the Time of COVID-19
The spread of COVID-19 made us rethink how we engage, whether it’s professionally or socially. With the increased use of video conferencing, phone calls, and other social (physical) distancing tech platforms, we’re doing our best to stay engage. Even though we use them more often, we still may not be really connecting on an emotional level…really checking in with each other. Extroverts, introverts, and ambiverts, alike, crave real human connection, and there are certain questions you can ask to ensure you facilitate meaningful conversations.
Here are a few questions I ask to spark honest, thoughtful conversations:
How are you feeling day-to-day or right now?
How are you handling not seeing and hugging family members, who don’t live with you?
How are you handling spending so much time with your family at home? How do you regroup?
What are your feelings about your current employment or financial status?
How are you managing your work and home life now that they are both located in the same space?
How are you managing stress when feel it?
How do you find peace of mind?
What do you tell yourself when you feel fearful about the future?
What do you think are some positive effects of the stay-at-home mandate?
How are handling spending more time alone than usual without physical contact?
How are your children coping?
What are you doing that brings you joy?
What are a few things you plan to do differently, when we return to what is considered normal life?
What do you do to relax?
How can I support you?
When I ask questions, I listen intently. With close friends, it’s more of an exchange, as it usually is. Oftentimes, I don’t give advice unless they ask, as they simply need to feel loved, heard and respected. Talking it out helps and assists in building closer bonds. I’ve learned that people are coping differently. Some people are having a difficult time. Others are managing just fine. Most are balancing the two reactions from moment to moment. I just remind them that I'm here to support them regardless.
Remember, when you have to go out to get essentials or to work, it takes little energy to smile (even with your eyes when you wear a mask), to share a nod of solidarity, and to respect the six-feet distancing rule to protect yourself and others. Showing kindness can be a sweet reminder of our shared humanity. We’re in this together. Be safe in there!